sejlor wrote:Ma Verter se ozbiljno zajebao ako misli da imam nameru da odgovaram na njegova propitivanja i ponovljena pitanja na koja je već odgovoreno par postova iznad.
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sejlor wrote:Ma Verter se ozbiljno zajebao ako misli da imam nameru da odgovaram na njegova propitivanja i ponovljena pitanja na koja je već odgovoreno par postova iznad.
sejlor wrote:E, a ko je na ljigav način došao do seksa?
ognica efimera wrote:plachkica wrote:Seksistička je napomena da je žena razvedena.
Nosi određeni vrednosni sud, a ti se praviš naivan.
kod nas i razvedena i neudata imaju jednako negativnu konotaciju i dzadzingovanje
bela maca wrote:uh, grozno. ja se zalažem za to da debele zovemo gadovima, odvratnima, šljamom, ljudskim otpadom. neće mene niko ućutkivati.
паће wrote:Ново, бар за мене - дебели хоће да их се сматра за лепе. Већ је пала једна тужба против власника теретане или продавца неког средства за мршављење, што се изразио у својој реклами, а њима се изражавање није свидело па су се увредили. Наравно у тамоу негдеу и не немам линак јер ми је то госпоја препричавала шта је прочитала.
You have certain rules, but you are never really expected to follow those rules, you know. There are rules which you are expected to violate. And, a situation that interests me even more — there are not only things which are prohibited, but you are expected silently to do it, nonetheless.
It’s very culturally specific up to the everyday level. For example, let’s say you’re a rich guy, and I’m a poor guy. I invite you out to dinner. In Europe at least, it’s custom that when the bill arrives, although we both know that I will pay, you have to pretend, “No, no, let me pay,” and so on. We have to go through this performance, although we absolutely both know exactly what will happen, that I will pay.
This seems like a basic premise in a lot of ethnographic research.
Let me tell you another horror story. Don’t you have, now, in the United States this madness with “yes means yes”? The idea is that when two people, if they want to have sex, it’s not enough if there is no no. There must be an affirmative “yes.” And even then, okay, a little bit ironically, they have those contract papers, or you take a photo, or whatever.
The point is not just to make fun of this, but this is exactly not how sexual seduction works. A little bit of a chauvinist example: You are seducing a lady. She would like to do it. But if you ask her openly, “Okay, can I fuck you now?” it would be too humiliating for her. Now I’m not saying this means that we can rape, or whatever. I’m just saying that things are much more subtle here.
I don’t think that’s quite what those rules and guidelines are intended to … okay, I see what you’re saying. We have this implicit back-and-forth.
No, no, no — let me be specific here. I’m extremely brutal against rape, sexual exploitation and so on. I’m just saying that flirting, seduction and all this is structured in such a way that it precisely resists this clear translation into explicit rules.
hatama wrote:
ali da iskren budem nisam gledao za glavate, mozda i ima no mi tad nije trebalo